Early Childhood Education Blog

Positive Self Talk

"I am smart."  "I can do it."  "I am special." When a child does something they should not have, such as they spill the milk all over the back of your car.  How many times did you tell them to be careful?  Your frustration mounts and you tell them something that later you wish you didn't say.  Your face showed your disappointment and you raised your voice.  This happens to every parent, every child and to some everyday.  Parenting is hard but remembering that YOU are the parent and YOU are responsible for guiding them through life.  How you choose your words and how you choose your actions will shape them. Remember they are little.  Yes, in your mind, you may think they should know better.  How many times did you make a mistake when you "knew better."  Think of mistakes as opportunities for growth.  Opportunities to not only remind them that they are loved but also remind them what they could do differently next time. Explain why we have to be careful and why we need to follow the rules. What you say/how you react, you can't take back. Teach them positive self talk.  I can think of my daughter coming home and telling me she is "stupid."  I was surprised by this declaration.  Where did she learn that?  Who told her that?  So many questions were running through my head and so quickly I responded with "you are not stupid, you are smart."  I took a second to find out where she learned that.  She did not do as well on her test and therefore decided she was stupid.  We turned that "I am stupid" to "I can study harder and do better next time." Deliver messages without criticism.  "You always make me late because you are too slow." Such declarations can be hurtful to children who don't have the ability to understand, "Mommy is tired today" or " Daddy has an important meeting this morning and is impatient."  Take a minute and explain why it is important to get out of the house in the morning and your child/children will listen to the positive message more than feel down about receiving the criticism. Speak calmly.  Yelling at children just has an automatic negative effect. It isn't helpful and won't give you the desired results long term. Additionally children can learn from your behavior and over time use yelling as their inner voice. Treat them with respect.  Just because children are little and children make mistakes and honestly can make the same mistake 200 times in one day, treat them with respect.  It won't be long before your child starts treating others with respect as well as respecting the rules and hearing your corrections in a positive way, thus making an impact....

Children and Empathy

What is Empathy? Empathy is the ability to understand other's feelings.  The term "put your feet in my shoes" is completely applicable to Empathy. Children aren't born with Empathy, it is learned and one piece of Creating Brilliance is teaching them Empathy.  As early as Toddler years, children can start learning Empathy.  They can start to feel and understand other's emotions. It is a crucial time to start laying the foundation for them to be aware.  What is interesting about teaching them empathy is that they also begin to soothe other's emotions.  They see another friend crying and they go to them to help soothe them. How do we teach empathy? 1. Role Model: Teachers, Parents, Grandparents, Babysitters are all role models for teaching empathy.  How we interact, soothe and listen to others is a great opportunity to teach empathy.  Children watch every move that adults make. Joy is a perfect way to share empathy.  When your child, relative, or co-worker has great news, help share their joy.  How easy to be excited when they are excited?! 2.  "Treat others as you would like to be treated."  The beautiful Golden Rule.  It isn't just how YOU would like to be treated, but also imagining how the other person would like to be treated. 3. Use emotions to describe feelings. "I understand you are frustrated." or "I see you are sad."  Teach children words to explain how they are feeling. 4. Stop criticizing. This is a hard one.  Adults, by nature, are filled with feedback but are not always aware of how that may make a child feel. We absolutely need to guide children and teach them right and wrong but is a balance between guiding them and not criticizing their every move.  Let them make mistakes and teach them the right way. A recent study by Health Psychology found that parents with high empathy, had well adjusted children....

Talking to Children about the Election

[video width="640" height="360" mp4="http://www.littlenewtons.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Little-Newtons-Talking-to-Kids-About-the-Election-WFLD-11.3.18-1.mp4"][/video] As usual, we can use the events around us as opportunities to grow our Children.  Talking to Children about Issues that we are facing, or the fact that we study and learn about a candidate and then go to the poll to pick a winner, or that we as citizen's have a voice in what happens to our Country and that voice is heard during the Election.  All are possible ways to talk to Children about the Election and keeping in mind that our Children follow everything we as parents do, so it is important to be positive and keep the message positive....

Positive Guidance

[video width="640" height="360" mp4="http://www.littlenewtons.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Little-Newtons-AAP-Condemns-Spanking-KARE-11.5.18.mp4"][/video] New Recommendations came out about Spanking last week.  The more important focus I had on this study is that there is always an opportunity to use positivity in guiding our children.  We are our children's inner voice and lead them to be strong adults....

WCCO: Talking to Toddlers

[video width="640" height="360" mp4="http://www.littlenewtons.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Little-Newtons-Talking-to-Toddlers-WCCO-10.15.18.mp4"][/video] Zero to Five is the most crucial age for development especially with the Language Explosion happening in Toddlerhood.  We, as parents, have a crucial role in building their language skills at this age by talking to them!...

Children need sleep!!

We pack so much into our summers, because we only have a limited amount of time to get out and enjoy the weather.  The sun rises early and sets late, which can confuse children's schedules.  I sat down with Liz on WCCO about how important sleep is for children.  Click on the link below. https://vimeo.com/user14179445/review/275645536/6e5d013eb6...